tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-90516612967197283232024-03-13T00:40:33.673-04:00E is for Etiquette, Enthusiasm and Efficiency"Welcome to my E-Lounge!"
Denise Zaldivar's personal take on all the E's!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-79333247173271682652010-08-04T15:41:00.000-04:002010-08-04T15:41:54.836-04:00Boston gets an A!Having coffee at "Boston Coffee House" here in Orlando is an experience that can be described as calming, comfortable and unique.<br />
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I say unique, because this place has a few "differentiators" that make it special, in comparison to many other cafes around town:<br />
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<strong>Great Service</strong>: Even if you just want a simple cup of coffee, like I did, they will gladly bring it to you where you choose to be seated!...And, even if you're just having a simple cup of coffee, they come and check whether there's anything you need.<br />
<strong>Space</strong>: It's always well visited, but never too crowded. There are comfortable tables spread out in the coffee house, with an abundance of natural sunlight coming in!<br />
<strong>Wi-Fi</strong>: There is free Internet connection, AND power outlets, with no limit on how long you can be connected! Thank you!<br />
<strong>Yum</strong>: Food options range from your usual coffee accompaniments (cakes, cookies, cinnamon buns etc) to salads and sandwiches.<br />
<strong>Looks</strong>: The place looks great, cozy, very clean, uncluttered and has a community feel.<br />
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Thank you, Boston Coffee House, for making many of my afternoons so pleasant!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-69566246783584884992010-07-30T15:54:00.002-04:002010-07-30T16:36:14.009-04:0034 and...change!A year and a half later, after having written 34 posts on Etiquette, Communication, Networking and Personal Branding, and after taking a necessary break due to personal and business reasons, <span style="color: #274e13;">INTERNATIONAL ETIQUETTE SOLUTIONS, INC.<em> (aka IES)</em> is officially starting a new chapter!</span> Thus, the E if for Etiquette Blog is also affected. <br />
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How so? <br />
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<em>IES is filling a need. </em><br />
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The Service Industry has called asking for Help! Customer Service Agents, Retail Clerks, Restaurant Staff, Airline Personnel and many other Hospitality and Tourism Agents want to benefit from the training IES can offer them.<br />
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<em>The philosophy is simple. </em><br />
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<strong><span style="color: #660000;">IES leaves the technicalities of the job to the company. Molding around the company's culture, strongly respecting and preserving its internal marketing efforts, IES creates a short training program that tackles the SOFT SKILLS. </span></strong><br />
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<em>Soft Skills?</em><br />
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<ul><li>It's not what you say, but HOW you say it.</li>
<li>It's not just because you talk with your hands, but HOW you use your hands to talk.</li>
<li>It's not how you feel inside, but how to EXPRESS your empathy through words and gestures.</li>
<li>It's not a matter of you listening better, but of you listening with your eyes.</li>
<li>It's not about meeting a customer's or guest's needs, rather, it's about exceeding them.</li>
<li>It's not just about making a 1st good impression, but about creating amazing, everlasting memories.</li>
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<em>IES has started dedicating itself to the Service Industry entirely. </em><br />
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<strong><span style="color: #274e13;">Expected benefits of IES' Training?</span></strong><br />
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<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Better communication skills, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Higher motivational levels at the job, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Increased levels of job satisfaction, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<span style="color: #351c75;"><strong>Stronger appreciation for the employer, resulting in</strong><strong></strong></span><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Enhanced commitment to one's job, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Decreased turnover and absenteism, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">More loyalty towards fellow colleagues, superiors and company, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Easier problem elimination, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Heightened customer and guest satisfaction, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Continuous desire to exceed customers' and guests' needs, resulting in</span></strong><br />
<strong><span style="color: #351c75;">Overall better bottom line results</span></strong><br />
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<span style="color: #6aa84f;">THE EMPLOYEES WIN. </span><br />
<span style="color: #6aa84f;">THE CUSTOMERS WIN.</span><br />
<span style="color: #6aa84f;">THE COMPANY WINS.</span>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-24537102575844679632009-11-02T13:06:00.004-05:002009-11-02T13:47:16.536-05:00Table Etiquette: Seating your guestsThe Holiday season is almost here, and while it is not here<em> yet</em>, you are probably planning and running through your mind what you will be doing this year.<br />Are you hosting a festive dinner this year? Are you attending one?<br />In the U.S.A., we celebrate Thanksgiving on the last Thursday of November. A very traditional holiday, Thanksgiving tends to bring family and even close friends together. Homes are filled with delicious home-cooking smells from the kitchen, where turkey, pumpkin pie, stuffing, cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes etc are enthusiastically prepared for Thanksgiving Dinner.<br />(In my family, we add to this white rice, black beans, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">yucca</span> and sweet plantains, but that is a whole different story. Needless to say, we barely have any space on the the table for all the delicious food: a Cuban-Brazilian influenced Thanksgiving! Very yummy, indeed!)<br /><br />Let's say you are hosting a Holiday Dinner this year. You already know who is attending, and you have a nice mix of friends, family and different age groups. You have a total of 12 people, including yourself.<br /><br />Decorate your table as you wish, prepare all the delicious food you decided for your menu, and <em>think of how your guests will be seated.</em><br />Here is an important reason for that:<br /><br /><div align="center"><strong>The flow of conversation needs to be kept up in order to allow for a pleasant, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">unforgettable</span> and entertaining dinner. </strong></div><div align="center"><strong></strong></div><div align="left">You want to seat your guests strategically. In this case, let's say you are hosting a rather casual dinner, you don't need to have a "guest of honour" in mind. If you do, though, the "guest of honour" will be seated to your right. The person 2<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">nd</span> in rank, let's say the "guest of honour's" spouse, will be seated to your left.</div><div align="left">That's right. There is NO need to seat married couples side by side. In fact, it is desirable NOT to seat them side by side. One reason being, it is assumed that married couples engage in daily conversations anyway, so that it is much more strategic to seat people, who don't have this chance, side by side and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">across</span> from each other.</div><div align="left">Engaged couples, however, protocol dictates, should be seated side by side.</div><div align="left">Think of the strong communicators of the group and spread them out. Don't have your quiet guests grouped on one side of the table and your chit-chatters all together on the other one. </div><div align="left">You may choose if you, as the host, want to sit at one of the table's ends or right in the middle. Once you pick your spot, prior to dinner (name cards are a nice touch and guide your guests to their seats, easily! I strongly encourage their use!), take some time to think where your guests will sit.</div><div align="left"></div><ul><li><div align="left">Split up married couples</div></li><li><div align="left">Follow the lady-<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">gentleman</span>-lady order, allowing for different genders to interact</div></li><li><div align="left">Split up the talkers and the listeners to allow for better communication flow</div></li><li><div align="left">Keep engaged couples sitting side by side</div></li></ul><div align="left"></div><div align="left"><em>Etiquette, in my opinion, should not be regarded as a set "book of rules". You need to adapt. Here's when you adapt to situations by adapting the rules:</em></div><ul><li><div align="left">Keep in mind guests who may not be proficient in the main language spoken that evening</div></li><li><div align="left">Keep in mind guests who "need" to sit together like a child and its mother, an older couple or someone who needs assistance while dining</div></li><li><div align="left">Keep in mind a very special request from your guest: "Can I please sit next to her?"</div></li></ul><p align="left">Designing a seating chart may take time and may sometimes be looked at as almost a science! Think of all the variables you need to consider, correct?</p><p align="left">But keep in mind always, you want to allow your guests to feel comfortable, engaged in nice conversation, happy and glad they attended your event. Make it memorable for them. </p><p align="left">In a next post, I will comment on choosing the right people for the right event. Not always do we have the chance to choose just certain people who will really "add to the mix". Sometimes, we can't. However, sometimes we can. We'll talk about this next time.</p><div align="left"></div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-50739533225873917762009-10-19T13:50:00.005-04:002009-10-19T14:13:41.129-04:00Do YOU do THIS? Please, don't!A short post to remind you NOT to do these following things, EVER:<br /><br />While talking to someone, DON'T text message or check e-mails on your phone, no matter how fast a typer you are or how quickly you want to browse your e-mails. If you MUST send/check a text message or e-mail, excuse yourself first, and then do it. You can't share attention even though you might think it's possible. No, it's rude and shows disrespect.<br /><br />Avoid at all costs talking to others next to/around you while talking on the phone. I don't care if it's a pet, a baby, another friend, your spouse or someone on Skype. If we are speaking on the phone, I'm doing so for a reason, and I'll expect you to speak with me, and not share the time with others next to you while "I'm patiently waiting" and wondering why you are interrupting our conversation. Again, if you must talk to someone, a pet, a child, anybody else while talking on the phone, EXCUSE yourself 1st. It's about good manners and consideration.<br /><br />Online bullying is a waste of time. If you have a problem with someone, please address it in person and put an end to the "drama". Why would you waste your time and your energy in being negative and achieving nothing, really? If you are the bullied one, move on by ignoring the comments. Bullying should only affect you if you actually believe some of it that is being said is actually true. For example, if someone tells me "I think your freckles are ugly!", it wouldn't affect me at all, because I know it's not true: I don't even have freckles!! ....just a note, I think freckles are actually a super nice touch!<br /><br />Fast casual restaurants (Panera, Crispers, a mall's food court...) or fast-food restaurants require you to participate in the service encounter. You are to clean up after yourself, no matter what. Don't make a fool of yourself by leaving your table dirty and not pushing your chairs back in/under the table (if they move). If you spill something, wipe it or ask for help. You are a co-producer of the service encounter. Act smart!<br /><br />Never pick your teeth/clean your teeth at the table. Reserve this personal moment for the restroom, please, even if you are dining alone. Also, don't use your tongue to "clean up" in there. If something is bothering you, excuse yourself and visit the restroom. Don't take too long, as you should always avoid leaving the table while dining with others.Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-85709333096425239592009-09-29T16:05:00.003-04:002009-09-29T16:44:02.722-04:00Be a partner in your service encounter!Not too long ago, I wrote a post about a few things front desk agents at a hotel go through emotionally and physically while working. It's not an easy job, and in my opinion, they are tremendously underpaid for the huge responsibility (that of providing excellent service and being the company's ambassador at all times, amongst other duties, of course.) they carry each and every day.<br /><br />It is part of my wish to help customers and guests better understand their service provider, so that they too, can partner up in order to achieve a successful and very positive service encounter.<br /><br />A customer service agent, whether sitting at a desk answering phone calls, helping customers exchange unwanted merchandise, checking guests in and out of a hotel or arranging dinner reservations "even if it is not his real job", constantly goes through emotion regulation.<br /><br />In a negative scenario, emotion regulation will dictate how employees react to situations right there when they are interacting with their guest/customer. They have a choice of reacting in a fake way, a choice of retrieving from the negative encounter or a choice of deeply feeling what the customer is going through. Not all customer service agents act in the same way, and this may not even have to do with the company policies they abide to. It could be related to culture as well.<br /><br />When customer service agents fake their feelings, they are "surface acting". They want to fix the situation, but don't really care deep inside. They could smile often and say empathetic things to ease the frustration of the guest ("I know how you feel, Mr. Schmidt..."), but they are faking because they don't feel the connection, may think the customer is exaggerating, have their thoughts set at something else, yet, this is their job. There is no authenticity in their smile. This frustrates the customer as well and is not "healthy" for the employee.<br /><br />On the other hand, customer service agents who are well trained are able to engage in "deep acting", creating a strong connection with the feelings and frustrations the customer is feeling. The agent appears very authentic, because, in a way, the empathy feeling exists. They might not have gone through the same issue, yet, they are able to replay in their minds situations that have triggered them to feel very similar feelings and these feelings are brought alive through "deep acting". "Deep acting" is far more effective than "surface acting" when interacting with upset customers. And yes, it is what it is: acting with real feelings.<br /><br />Don't think customer service agents are there just to do their jobs and act. Many of them have a true passion for serving others, and while sometimes they might not feel the emotional connection with an upset customer, they are able to regulate their emotions in a way to develop this common feeling and better deal with the situation. If you manage customer service agents, you are lucky to have true passionate employees on your team. They exist!<br /><br />"Deep acting" has also shown to be a far better manager of burnout, absenteeism and job satisfaction for customer service employees.<br /><br />Other employees simply avoid the situation and call their supervisor or manager, especially if they are not given a lot of autonomy on the job. This (lack of autonomy and avoidance), however, in my opinion, does not foster job satisfaction.<br /><br />So, why do I write about this?<br />I believe that as part of a pleasant, effective interpersonal exchange, people need to better understand how their service providers work and think. What can you, as a customer, do with this information? Understand and regulate your emotions as well. Be a partner in the service encounter. Help the agent engage in "deep acting". It will pay off.<br /><br />How do you engage in deep acting?<br />Recall a situation and re-live the feelings that were brought along with the situation. Pick a situation that suits the event. Is the customer really upset seeming very disappointed? When were you last so upset and disappointed that you promised yourself never to walk into that store again? Feel that feeling and apply it to the service encounter.<br /><br />As a manager, look deeper into emotion regulation and "deep acting" for your employees. Be a transformational leader more than a "numbers and rules" leader.<br /><br />Communication is so important, yet, we fail to acknowledge it and understand the dimensions that can make it more efficient and meaningful!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-189721821284053312009-09-21T13:37:00.008-04:002009-09-21T17:28:19.681-04:00Your Business CardToday I received a question related to the contents of a business card. The person who asked me the question is currently enrolled in an international gastronomic institution, and, being a student yet meeting many different people, her main concern was <em><span style="color:#ffcc00;">"What should my business card say?".</span></em><br /><br /><strong>Below are some of my ideas on Business Cards:</strong><br /><ul><li>Business Cards represent you. If you are lucky enough to be able to create your own, keep this is mind. Therefore, they can aid or harm your personal branding efforts. </li><li>Business Cards may be printed on both sides, but one side should contain all the main contact information, while the other side can have a design, a quote or your business logo. Don't make the receiver have to switch sides all the time, possibly overlooking important information.</li><li>Business Cards should have a professional look. They should follow the standard business card size, so that people may easily store them in card holders, wallets etc. They should be printed on high quality stock. This is NOT where you want to save money. Save money on other things, but not on something that so heavily represents you and/or your business. You want to make the best of impressions, regardless of what you do or whom you work for.</li><li>Business Cards should only contain web site addresses if there is a way of contacting you through the web site. This means, business cards are not advertising cards. They are a representation of who you are, what you do and <em>how you can be contacted.</em></li><li>While online social networks are "in" and (I believe) here to stay, I would not include "find me on Twitter!" or ""I'm on Facebook!" on the card. This is almost a given, if you own your own business or are eager to network with people. <em>Tell </em>people instead, should they ask about your online presence. Also, instead, include these directly on your web site or your blog. You may only include your blog address if your blog represents what you do and has your contact information on it as well. If it's a personal/family blog, I would not include it in the business card. Again, you are creating and/or maintaining a professional image here.</li><li>Some people may choose to carry 2 or even 3 Business Cards! People who travel internationally, may have their business cards printed exactly the same way but in different languages! This is a great idea! Other people, may prefer to have a professional card and a "social card". The issue I find with this, is the following (an you may disagree!): When a friend passes your social card on to a potential future employer, for example, meaning nothing but good ("Oh, you should meet my friend Carla! She is a wonderful freelance writer and so creative. She speaks 3 languages and travels all over the world!"), the business owner and editor of that cool magazine obtains Carla's contact info through her friend and the card is very casual: It has a too casual e-mail address (pretty_writerbabe1985 @ funmail.com, as an example), no clear statement of what she does, just her name and a sentence below which says "Living free with an open mind!", it has her personal blog address, Twitter information and 2 overlapping head shots of her at the beach and in the snow. Fun card, but it doesn't transmit professionalism. Your friend was trying to help her out by referring her to a potential freelance position, however, all she had was her "social card" that was passed on to friends, new friends and social acquaintances. Keep in mind, you never know where it could end up, and that's why I would rather have only 1 card that transmits the idea of who I am, what I do and how I can be contacted in a simple, professional way for everybody.</li></ul><p>Business Cards are a personal choice, and you are the one who will actually decide what goes on it (if your company doesn't provide you with one or if you are self-employed). The tips above are my opinions on how to keep business cards professional and straight to the point for all receivers.</p><p><strong>The most important information on your business card includes the following:</strong></p><ul><li>Your name as you want to be known by.</li><li>Your title (my next Blog post will be entirely on "titles" for business cards - coming soon!)</li><li>Your complete mailing address or physical business address</li><li>Your contact telephone number and fax number (if you have one)</li><li>Your e-mail address (if you are a business owner, PLEASE, do NOT use a gmail/hotmail/yahoo etc address. You need to have a professional domain for your email. I have free emails and love using them, but not for business. If you are not a business owner, but a student, use your institution's/school's email address. If this is not available, and that's the only excuse I find, create a professional free email account with your 1st and last name, and not any cute nicknames and numbers, in case you cannot afford to buy your own domain)</li><li>Your web site address (if you can be contacted through it)</li><li>Your company's/ institution's name (and logo)</li></ul><p><strong>In the example of the person sending me her question: This is what I would do:</strong></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">Julie Sousa</span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">International Gastronomy Student</span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">ABC School of Gastronomy</span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">123 School Street, Famous City, Famous Country</span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">Tel.: 123-456-7890 <em>(this should be your cell phone, and watch now for your voice mail greeting and ring tone)</em></span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">E-mail: julie.sousa @ gastronomyschool.com</span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">Blog: TheGastronomyIJournal.blogABC . com</span></p><p></p><p></p><p></p>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-20129133926441502562009-09-16T22:44:00.002-04:002009-09-16T22:58:58.337-04:00What do you say?<strong>Do you say "Hi!" or do you say "Hello!"?</strong><br /><br />I say "hi" to my friends and family.<br />I say "hello" to someone I'm meeting for the 1st time.<br />I say "hi" to my family and close friends over the phone.<br />I say "hello" to business associates.<br />I say "hi" when the friendly cashier at the groceries store says hi to me.<br />I say "hello" to higher authorities.<br />I say "hi" when anybody says "hi" to me as well, regardless of their position, rank, celebrity.<br /><br />Bottom line: Keep "hi!" for more casual interactions, and "hello!" for more formal interactions!<br /><br /><strong>Do you say "I'm sorry!" or do you say "I apologize!"?</strong><br /><strong></strong><br />I say "I'm sorry" when I am empathizing with someone's pain or worry.<br />I say "I apologize" when I arrive late for whatever reason it may be.<br />I say "I'm sorry" when I can't help but laugh at a tragic-funny situation.<br />I say "I apologize" if I accidentally knock over someone's water glass at the table.<br />I say "I'm sorry" when I find it difficult to express any words of comfort.<br />I say "I apologize" when I made a true mistake.<br />I say "I'm sorry" when I have to deliver news that may not be very good ones.<br /><br />Bottom line: Take into consideration that to give an apology is an action, while to be or feel sorry is a state of mind.Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-84723347178703872972009-09-04T18:22:00.003-04:002009-09-04T18:50:00.477-04:00When your guests misbehave<span style="color:#00cccc;">First of all, I must say:</span><br />It is not your fault if your own guests misbehave at a restaurant. Unfortunately, we cannot be responsible for adults' actions.<br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">Here is the setting:</span><br />The host invited a group of about 10 to have dinner at a friend's restaurant. She planned it with care and made sure all guests' needs could be met during dinner. One of the guests decided to invite 2 friends to attend as well. The hostess welcomed the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">additional</span> guests, 2 ladies.<br />The restaurant: a Colombian owned restaurant, specializing in South-American cuisine, featuring Colombian music, decor and on that specific evening, also a late Karaoke entertainment event.<br />The guests: Some were of Hispanic descent and some were not. The 2 additional guests spoke English and no Spanish, and were not familiar with Colombian cuisine, atmosphere and the "Latin touch".<br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">What happened:</span><br />Upon arrival (a rather late arrival), the 2 ladies approach the table, greet everybody, and start giggling and whispering to one another. After taking their seats, they decide to use the table's paper napkins to write notes and pass it around the table to some people (No, the ladies were not young teenagers. They could have been teenagers' mothers maybe). The hostess spots the behavior and actually gets to read one of the notes. It said: <em>"<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">WTF</span>, all Spanish here?!"</em><br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">The response:</span><br />The hostess felt <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">embarrassed</span> and very uncomfortable. The table was displaying a large amount of handwritten notes on paper napkins, and even the owner, once approaching the table to greet the guests, noticed the pile of written communication laying around.<br />The hostess made sure the 2 ladies had a menu with English translation and asked if they needed any suggestions. She tried accommodating their needs but their behavior was getting her really, really upset and <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">embarrassed</span>. She even apologized to her friend, the restaurant's owner.<br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">My response:</span><br />A few days later, after hearing about the incident, I felt bad. It is so sad that adults can behave in such manner. I immediately told her "It is not your fault!. You can only feel sorry for them, as the event has passed and they ended up leaving a very bad impression on you, on the restaurant staff and other guests at the table."<br /><strong><em>What would you do in such a situation?</em></strong><br />I would keep in mind they are my guests, but I would also keep in mind they are probably <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">embarrassing</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">themselves</span> and others. The most <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">appropriate</span> response to this situation would be to address them, engage them in conversation, ASK them questions and offer help. Deviating their attention from their own actions could change their focus. If they see you reading one of the notes, you can <em>diplomatically </em>make a comment like "Oh, this must be your first time here! We admire the quality of service and of the food they serve. It's a great way to learn more about the Colombian culture. They are wonderful people!" Smile when you say that, be sincere, not snippy, and look them in the eyes. Your goal is to appease the situation, and not make it worse for anybody. You are the hostess, and as a hostess, sometimes, we have to deal with guests who misbehave. Unfortunately.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ffcc00;"><strong>No matter what, always be a class-act!</strong></span>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-73296078297931011752009-08-14T17:18:00.005-04:002009-08-14T17:56:11.527-04:00Stand Out by going back to the Basics!Oh, how we get caught in our daily thoughts, busy schedules, trying to multitask and satisfy different people at once. Hopefully, not forgetting about our own needs as well!<br /><br />I really prefer not to stay away from My Blog for so long. It was inevitable, though. Let me explain.<br /><br />Vacation time came around, and as part of a well-balanced life, we all need a break. The wonderful event of two friends getting married abroad a cruise ship leaving to the Bahamas was just the right vacation we much needed. We enjoyed every moment of this adventure and thank our friends for an amazing time! Following, continuous preparations for the upcoming Orlando Citrus Club Member Business Expo in September have taken quite a bit of time and creative thinking energy out of our daily routine. Nothing to complain, though. The second semester has started out with very good spirits and ideas, and I immediately saw myself strongly involved in aiding another company I love in developing their new brochure and stationary items. (Please note, I am not a graphic designer on top of all! I help with the wording and strategic placement of such).<br />New clients, networking events and meetings have come along and the semester has a very exciting outlook!<br /><br />I will briefly write a note on <span style="color:#00cccc;">online Social Networks</span> and other online Social Programs available to us. There are plenty, however, the ones I use are Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and although I have an account with Orkut, I might soon delete it.<br /><em>Do you feel online social networks are taking over our social lives, at some level? I absolutely think <strong>YES</strong>.</em> To many, it feels like if you are not part of it, you are missing out!<br /><br />In my opinion, social networks are here to stay and are here to grow day after day. We lose the personal touch of chatting with a friend in person or over the phone. We lose the motivation of writing a real Thank You card on paper or sending out real paper invitations, handwritten, because all can be done online for no cost and so much faster. <span style="color:#33cc00;">It's instant!</span> The online social world is powerful.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ffcc00;">It's fast, it's real and it's quite efficient.</span><br /><br /><strong>You plan a party:</strong> You create an event on Facebook, and invite your friends to the event. They will know through Facebook that your party is on this day, at that time, and what the theme is. Fast, simple, no real cost associated with it.<br /><strong>You update a friend:</strong> You have big news and it's 01:40a.m. Your friend lives across the world, 5h ahead of you, so, you send her a message or a wall post to ensure she receives the big news early in the morning. You don't want to call and wake her up, do you?<br /><strong>Your company is in the news:</strong> You Tweet about it on Twitter, letting all of your followers know about the great reviews on your business.<br /><br /><span style="color:#33cc00;"><strong>Easy. Fast. Efficient.</strong></span><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff6600;">BUT</span> (there is always a "but", isn't there?)...<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#ffcc00;">These are the times when you NEED to STAND OUT.</span></strong><br /><br />In this era, <strong><em>you WILL stand out by going back to the basics.</em></strong><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>YOU WILL STAND OUT BY:</strong></span><br /><ul><li>Calling your friend early in the morning and personally/over the phone, give her your amazing news.</li><li>Writing out real-deal invitations to your party and mailing them to your friends and family.</li><li>Sending a copy of your company article/review to your favorite clients, friends and family, BY MAIL with a handwritten note!</li><li>Writing a post-card to clients, friends and family directly from your vacation spot.</li><li>Sending your friend an update on what's going on in your life in form of a handwritten letter, with pictures you printed out and a fun magazine article you think he/she might enjoy reading.</li></ul>The Internet world is FAST and EFFICIENT, however, if you want to let people know HOW MUCH you care for the relationship you have with them, <span style="color:#ffcc00;">invest the TIME</span> and seriously commit to it. I love online social networks, and I am certainly not advocating for people to leave them. I am very active in all I am part of, and dedicate time to it. I enjoy it and see how useful they can be.<br />But keep in mind as well:<br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>Going back to the basics, right now, will REALLY make you stand out from the crowd.</strong></span></div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-77603532217404158252009-07-24T16:09:00.006-04:002009-07-24T17:02:31.778-04:00Brushing up on Gift Giving Etiquette!July - What an eventful and quite busy Summer month!<br /><br />Let's talk about <strong><span style="color:#ff6600;">G</span><span style="color:#ff6600;">ift</span><span style="color:#ff6600;"> Giving and Receiving</span></strong>!<br /><br />Most people will say openly that giving evokes far better and more fulfilling feelings than receiving. For most, I believe this can actually be true. On the other hand, let's all be very honest with ourselves and admit that receiving gifts is also very, very nice! It makes us feel special, and most of us think so!<br /><br />To be remembered by someone for a special occasion in our life is unforgettable. No matter the size of the gift, whether it's a handwritten card, flowers, a very expensive electronic device or delicious chocolates. Whether it's your favorite perfume, the last season of your favorite TV Drama or an inspirational book, when we <strong>receive and give</strong> a gift, 4 things are happening:<br /><br /><ol><li>The person giving the gift to you is communicating to you how important you are to her/him.</li><li>The person giving the gift to you is silently saying "I invested time (and money) to get you something that I believe will bring you value and make you happy."</li><li>The person giving the gift to you is anxiously awaiting your reaction to the gift.</li><li>The receiver of the gift is accepting this material thing that is celebrating a friendship, an accomplishment or another important event and is agreeing that this exchange represents the caring coming from the gift giver.</li><li>The person receiving the gift feels special and cared for that the gift giver took time (and money) to spend it on you.</li><li>The receiver of the gift expresses a true or untrue opinion about the gift <em>"Wow, I love it! Thanks!"</em></li></ol><p align="center"><em><span style="color:#00cccc;">I strongly believe gifts can have the power of positively or negatively influencing a relationship.</span></em></p><p align="left"><em><span style="color:#33cc00;">The GIFT GIVER's Duties:</span></em></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">When choosing a gift, remember how the person dresses, what his/her daily life is like, where they work, and what people they are usually surrounded with or places they travelled to.</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Choose a gift by recalling what the person likes to talk about. Is he a golfer or Sports fanatic? Is she into Politics and writing? Maybe he is a Musician and appreciates music from other countries. This is why it is also so important to LISTEN to people well when they tell you stories and share opinions. You learn a lot about their likes and dislikes.</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Never, and I will repeat it again (I already even mentioned that in a previous post), ask the gift receiver "Do you like it? Oh, I think you don't like it...You can exchange it if you want to!.." You should NEVER have to ask and say that. You should offer to exchange the gift yourself if you bought the gift receiver a t-shirt, for example, that is a wrong size. Apologize and offer to exchange it yourself!</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Avoid giving a gift card, unless the gift receiver has actually expressed his/her liking of gift cards. Gift cards may be interpreted as "Here is something for you. I didn't really have time to look for something for you, but with this card you can buy whatever you want." So, basically, you didn't give a gift. You paid for something the gift receiver chose.</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#33cc00;">The GIFT RECEIVER's Duties:</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Immediately THANK the gift giver for the gift, WHETHER OR NOT you truly like it! I am sorry to say, but it would be the rudest thing to say "<em>Oh, what the heck is that? I'm sorry, I don't even know what to do with this!!.."</em> No comments.</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Write a Thank You card (yes!) to the Gift Giver thanking him/her for the gift. You may want to write something like: <em>"Dear Cathy, thank you so much for thinking about me on my special day! I love the new "Cool Blues" CD you gave me. I take it in my car with me, and my ride to work is much more enjoyable! Thank you! Cordially, your Cousin Laurie". Write a Thank You card when the gift giver is present giving you the gift and also when the gift giver is not present when you receive the gift.</em></span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Nowadays, with e-mail and text-messaging, personal phone calls are becoming rare, unfortunately. People claim not to have time. Personal phone calls are becoming special! So, give your gift giver a call to thank them for the gift in case you will be going out of town and will have not time for Thank You cards. I will insist that Thank You cards are the preferred option, and avoid e-mails or (even worse) text messaging. But, yes, I know we've all been in a situation where we find it too convenient not to e-mail or text messaging. Just keep in mind: Thank You cards are the best option. Avoid the rest. Be a class act!</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Please, never re-gift the gift you received. In my opinion, this is a big No-No. Some people will tell you it is OK to do if you are very careful, but don't you feel bad abut it? I would! You can find good use for a gift that is, let's say, not really of your taste 100%. Just be creative!</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Keep track of who gave you which gift, and if you are hosting a large event where many gifts are presented, designate a family member or good friend who is willing to help you create a list. It will come in VERY handy when you write your Thank You cards!</span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#6633ff;">A month or two have passed since you received all your beautiful gifts and you STILL did not find any time to write your Thank You cards? Do it now! In my honest opinion, it is NOT too late. Again, be creative. Surprise the gift giver and write something like <em>"Dear Eric, You will not believe how much I enjoyed using the backpack you gave me for my Birthday, on my camping trip this weekend! It is so useful, and it didn't leave my side. Thank you for this thoughtful gift that made all the difference and that I will put to great use in all my upcoming camping trips! Yours, Louise."</em></span></p><p align="left"><span style="color:#cc0000;"><strong>VERY IMPORTANT:</strong></span></p><p align="left">Note that some people prefer not to receive gifts. Or, to explain it better, gift giving and receiving may not truly be part of their culture. You should respect this, and not expect the person to jump up and down when you offer them your gift. In this case, keep it very simple. The last thing you want is to overwhelm the gift receiver. You may want to invite the person out to drinks or to lunch and dinner, instead of giving them a gift. You may want to call them on their Birthday or Graduation day, or other event and sincerely congratulate them, expressing kindness and happiness. Another great idea is to donate money to a charity this person strongly supports! This might be all they want. <span style="color:#cc33cc;">KNOW your gift receiver.</span> This is key to a successful interpersonal exchange!</p><p align="left"><em></em></p><em></em>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-62393153196634578632009-06-30T17:50:00.004-04:002009-06-30T18:34:51.208-04:00Your Front Desk Agent at the Hotel<span style="color:#ff6600;">Front Desk Agents have a hard job. </span><br /><br />I dedicate this post to all those who currently work at a hotel's front desk or have worked at one in the past. I've done it, holding different positions and seeing it all come together from different angles, and I know it's not an easy job.<br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">In my opinion, front desk agents are tremendously underpaid, given the amount of work, knowledge, decision making abilities, emotional and physical toll and offensive guest behavior they have to face.</span><br /><br />As a guest, keep in mind what front desk agents "need to have, be and do" on a daily basis, for HOURS. Some may love their job, yet, we all know that too much of a thing is not ideal anyway.<br /><br /><ul><li>They need to smile for 8 hours (if not longer), even if they have a headache, cramps, nausea or have already been working for 9 days straight</li><li>They need to be positive for 8 hours (if not longer), even though they know the hotel is fully booked, no rooms are available and they'll have to send you to the hotel across the street for the night</li><li>They should try to get along with all other agents, because management tries to cultivate team spirit and the ones who don't practice it won't get brownie points</li><li>They need to be able to anticipate your needs real fast when you're about 40 feet away from them walking towards the desk</li><li>They need to act as if you're right no matter what nonsense you're telling them</li><li>They need to magically make pool/garden view rooms appear to cater to your persistent wish even if there really are none available</li><li>They need to know about EVERYTHING that goes on in the hotel (restaurant hours, shuttle services, how the business center printer works (!), why the movies on demand are not working, what time the cute bartender starts his shift or why the airline lost your luggage)</li><li>They need to politely deal with guests who yell at them, who think they are stupid, incompetent and incapable of solving their "simple" problem</li><li>They need to endure the fact that, in the guest's view, it's their fault when the AC in the room is not working, because, of course, that agent chose that room for him! (not always the case!)</li><li>They are cursed at by upset, loud, inconvenienced guests, they are hit on by drunk, obnoxious people, they may witness naked people walk across the lobby at night and may have to help escort an almost comatose guest (drunk or drugged) to their room</li><li>They are not a bank (they may cash checks, but this service is limited)</li><li>They may have a lot of power, but when it comes to restaurant bills, please remember to deal with any discrepancies directly with the restaurant manager</li><li>They are most of the time really, really not at any fault if your 2 months pre-blocked room with a King connector facing the lake is taken by another guest</li><li>They are trained to do their job, but remember that not all establishments provide the same type of training for the same time duration</li><li>They have managers who not always stand by them. Remember, this is one of the worst things that can happen to you at work. </li></ul><p>I know there are people who really are "natural" customer service agents. They love it and are great at it. They don't mind the often harsh environment and can actually, consistently have a positive attitude. They love their job and the guest interaction. I wish all agents had this in them. The real picture is painted differently, though. <span style="color:#ffcc00;">Remember that many agents are transitory in their position</span>, aiming to spend "just some time" at the desk and hopefully move up to a higher position or a different department soon. Some others, are doing this as part of an internship and will be off the front desk in a few months. Some, need a job, and they really see it as just a job that has good extra benefits (hopefully, at least). Others, are starting out in the workplace and are trying out different things that may initially appeal to them, just to realize after a few months, they don't love the front desk so much as they thought. </p><p>Next time you stay at a hotel, remember that front desk agents don't have an easy job. You might be a great guest, but the guest just before you, might have made that agent who's serving you, cry. </p><p><span style="color:#33ccff;">I learned that empathy goes a long way.</span> Have it. Use it. </p><p>Another thing to remember: NEVER think a front desk agent is less knowledgeable, less smart or less important than you are!</p><p>Have a wonderful stay!</p><span style="color:#ff9900;">...and thank you very much!</span>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-36647038787174097822009-06-18T16:41:00.005-04:002009-06-18T18:09:17.967-04:00Be the perfect Hotel Guest!Knowing how to behave and communicate well while staying at a hotel will help YOU have a better stay! The most important thing to keep in mind <em>is to treat the hotel staff with respect, courtesy and understanding!<br /></em><br /><span style="color:#ffff66;">CHECKING IN:</span><br /><br /><ul><li>When checking in, always be polite, friendly and communicative. Never be snobby and, please, don't wear your sunglasses unless you actually have eye problems at that time. Eye contact is one of the most important things for a successful interpersonal exchange. </li><li>When checking in, don't ask "I'm a frequent guest here...can I have a Suite?", without familiarizing yourself FIRST with the current and upcoming occupancy of the hotel. You may ask the agent checking you in "Has the hotel been very busy these days?" and get a feel for the situation from there. If you are indeed a frequent guest on a reward system offered by the hotel chain and you have used your reward # for your reservation, stay assured that the best hotels will automatically upgrade you to a suite <em>if it is available</em>.</li><li>Don't flirt with the front desk agent. It is offensive and distracting, and creates a very uncomfortable interaction. It is possible that, depending on how the agent feels about your "flirty jokes", she will leave not so friendly comments about you in your account. Whoever pulls up your account will be able to read her notations about how you behaved at check-in.</li></ul><span style="color:#ff9900;">YOUR ROOM TYPE:</span><br /><br /><ul><li>IF your choice of room is NOT available, don't lose your temper and curse out the front desk agent. It is probably not her/his fault at all. Rooms are, most of the time, allocated to reservations long before your check-in time, and there are certain supervisors or controllers who are in charge of this. Losing your temper will NOT get you brownie points with <em>anybody</em> at the<em> </em>Front Desk, and you might end up NOT receiving any of your desired compensation (may this be free tickets to the shuttle to downtown, complimentary room service, a discounted rate, extra points on your rewards card etc)</li><li>Continuing, if your choice of room is not available, politely express your disappointment, and ask calmly "So, what do you think we can do about it?". Right there, the agent will understand your request for "something to be done", and will most likely give you options. Remember, however, for your future stays, call the hotel the day prior to your arrival, and confirm the room type you had requested. Explain to the agent on the line how important it is for you to have this type of room, and ask, always politely and very friendly, continuously repeating the agent's name on the phone while talking to her/him, if she/he could leave a note on your account for other agents to honour your room request (that means, not to move you/your reservation to another type of room). </li><li>IF the above mentioned step did not work out for you, know that there are situations beyond control of the Front Desk staff that could sometimes negatively affect other guests coming in (a group postponing their check-out, for example, will inevitably affect the room inventory somehow).</li></ul><span style="color:#ff9966;">POST CHECK-IN DUTIES:</span><br /><br /><ul><li>Remember your front desk agent's name and if you had a bellman escort you and your luggage to the room, remember his name as well. Try to establish a relationship with them, so that you become <em>their</em> guest. Throughout your stay, talk to <em>them</em>, ask <em>them</em> questions, and ask <em>them</em> for help if you need it. They will appreciate you trusting them and coming to them for help, and will be glad to offer you the best service. Tips are greatly appreciated (and, may I share my opinion, you should always tip good service), especially by valet-parking and bell stand staff. Front desk agents are not used to being tipped, but a "monetary gift" as a thank you on your day of checking out will never be forgotten. </li><li>Recognition goes a long way, and if you have 2 minutes (just 2 minutes!), fill out a guest comment card, acknowledging the people who gave you good service. Write down your name, contact information, and KNOW that these positive comments have a tremendous positive impact on hotel staff. They are read by management, and they are shared with other employees. It definitely helps ensure good service for other guests too!</li></ul>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-15050063172509544762009-06-12T11:59:00.004-04:002009-06-12T13:09:37.734-04:00InternEtiquette - Part IIIOh, online communication is a special thing. A previous post of mine mentioned how important it is to make your words more "visual", so that people cannot only truly understand what you want to tell them, but can also understand HOW you are saying/writing it.<br /><br /><em>"I cannot believe he would do that!"</em> has a different meaning than <em>"I cannot believe <strong>HE</strong> would do that!" </em>You see what I mean, right?<br /><br /><span style="color:#ffff00;">Sometimes people believe the Internet is a silent war-zone. </span><br />There is no visualization even needed, because the madness in their words says it all.<br />I am all for kindness and being good, but unfortunately there are people who use the online world for putting others down.<br />There are curse words, there is anger, there is misery and there are accusations. I have seen it mostly on social media engines, like Facebook, Twitter or MySpace. Envy and jealousy reign in their minds at that moment of "updating a status", "tweeting" or "commenting on someones post", and people take off on a voyage of deliberate insults and profanity.<br /><br /><span style="color:#33ffff;">It only ends up hurting themselves.</span><br />Remember what I mentioned about others' perceptions of you. Enough said.<br /><br />Why? Why would you do that to yourself? Do you really want to show the world how you place so much negative energy on abusing and offending someone "publicly", instead of trying to find a solution?<br />Keep in mind that the Internet is an open book, and your employer, future employer, potential employer, friends, family, children can all have access to the information you input online on social media engines.<br /><br />My advice is: Leave the ugly words for very personal encounters only, and only if very, very necessary. I am not in favor of confrontations that create a scene, that have hair-pulling and curse words involved. You can keep all confrontations diplomatic and less painful, always.<br /><br /><br /><div><ul><br /><li>Online, if you are the victim of a social media insult, <span style="color:#ffcc66;">ignore it.</span> Don't "start a scene" and comment on that certain comment. Don't update your status by confronting back. You'll be the better, bigger person sending the silent message that it didn't affect you. That is all you need to do.</li><br /><li>Online, don't waste your time leaving ugly comments for people. WHY are you not focusing on doing <span style="color:#ffcc66;">something more productive</span> with your life? Live a better, positive life. You don't need to share with everybody how much you "hate him" or "wish she would quit work and disappear". <span style="color:#ffcc66;">Do yourself a favor. </span></li><br /><li>Online, share your worries, concerns and comments with a friend, <span style="color:#ffcc66;">via e-mail</span>. Keep it as private as possible, and don't post it on social media engines. Sharing and talking is OK, but <span style="color:#ffcc66;">don't opt for the "open insults"</span> that will actually bring you down instead. </li></ul><br /><br /><div align="center"><strong>Be Kind.</strong></div><br /><div align="center"><strong>Feel Good. </strong></div></div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-19782040362030502512009-06-06T11:34:00.004-04:002009-06-06T12:15:13.650-04:00When your disorganization trumps your good intentionsLet's be honest: We all have a <span style="color:#ffff00;">messy </span>closet, a <span style="color:#ffff00;">junk</span> drawer, hidden stashes of "something" or a desk/table where you carry out most of your daily activities. I am right, aren't I? Your office appears neat and clean, but, wait! ...Don't you dare open those upper cabinets! Your bedroom is a model room...if you only looked under the bed! Uff!...OK, maybe if you truly are more organized, maybe you have just a tiny corner in your house, a small box with "items" (yet, you still labeled the box "<em>random things</em>"), a little shelf (a hidden shelf, of course!) that holds a few papers or "stuff". The hidden disorganization. I believe I can live with that!<br /><br /><span style="color:#00cccc;">The reason why I decided to write about disorganization, is because I believe chronic disorganization can ruin our goals.</span> This is so sad. I've seen people giving up because they couldn't find their "to do list" they were working on and after starting a new one, they once again misplace it. I've seen people not going to the gym because they postponed doing their laundry, didn't check detergent was actually missing and had nothing to wear to the gym. Their enthusiasm, so great, was eaten up by disorganization. I've also seen people avoid calling important people, or getting back via e-mail because (and they told me that), they misplaced their contact info! Wow!<br />I've experienced being silently ignored by someone who had so much, so much in his hands, he couldn't even schedule answering me back in his amazingly busy 24h day. He told me he didn't sleep, so I figured ... "Hey, maybe I have a chance of receiving an e-mail from him, even if it's at 3 a.m. I wouldn't mind!" He couldn't really fit me into his 24h day, and while I move on, my perception of him changed quite a bit.<br /><br />I wrote a previous post about the following: We live in a society. <span style="color:#00cccc;">No matter who we are, who we want to be or what beliefs we have, it is how OTHERS PERCEIVE us that will, partly, influence how successful our social life, our social interactions are. </span>If you come across as a snob, yet you feel you are <em>not</em> one, you are clearly doing something wrong. If you come across as rude, yet you are perplexed to hear that Mary gossiped to Lauren and John about your rude remarks and they all agreed on it, you're certainly doing something wrong! Don't kid yourself. This is serious stuff.<br /><br />If I interact with you one day, and the next day I meet you say, in your office, <span style="color:#ffff33;">you are inviting me in to explore more of who you are</span>. If your office is a mess, a chaotic dump, you are telling me this about you. I might continue to consider you an extremely, friendly, outgoing, fun, capable, knowledgeable person, yet, I will also think of you as messy and disorganized. Will this have a negative impact on my future judgement of you? Maybe.<br /><br />Chronic disorganization at the workplace, in your Association, in your Club, even at home, sends signals to others that something is not in sync with you.<span style="color:#00cccc;"> Can we really, really reach full efficiency if our surroundings are messy? </span>Think about it. Do you picture your dream workplace as a messy place? Honestly, I don't think you would. Some would argue that most geniuses were totally disorganized. OK, but are you a genius like Einstein or Galileo? Hm.<br /><br />I have a few hidden, junk drawers, junk closets and "holds whatever"- cabinets. Both at work and at home. I live peacefully with my mess. I call it organized mess, because it doesn't affect my day, it doesn't affect my goals, it doesn't bother me. Many of us realize the mess, ignore it and literally suffer from the negative effects it has on us, on our goals and possible negative perceptions others can have of us.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff9900;">If you are doing business where people need to have very positive perceptions of you</span>, re-think your office mess, your mess in your car (picking up a client for lunch?), your mess in your purse (does it take you 15 minutes to locate your business cards?). You have goals to achieve in your social and business interactions, and don't let your messy surroundings ruin them for you!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-59390649547541666232009-05-29T16:09:00.004-04:002009-07-22T22:19:29.948-04:00Effective Networking: It's in YOUR hands!<span style="color:#ffff33;">Effective Networking</span>, whether for business or social purposes is not that easy a task as we might think. It requires quite a bit of work from YOUR part, and it happens in 3 stages: Before, During and After.<br /><br />If you are about to attend a Networking event that will bring together, let's say, a multitude of business people who conduct business in your area, consider the following:<br /><br /><span style="color:#33ffff;">BEFORE</span><br /><ul><li>Find out who will probably be attending the event. Ask around. Ask the place (a restaurant?) or the Event organizers. </li><li>If someone interesting is expected to attend, and you are planning on meeting them, do your homework on them. Read about what they do, and learn about their latest ventures.</li><li>Make sure you understand the attire suggested, and choose something comfortable, professional, neutral, clean and wrinkle-free.</li><li>Load up on business cards and actually, grab a few from your close business partners/friends to take with you as well. You never know what you'll end up talking about, and maybe someone will ask you if you know any great Doctor, Doggie Daycare, Social Media Expert you trust..and you'll be glad to provide a reference!</li></ul><br /><span style="color:#33ffff;">DURING</span><br /><ul><li>Don't be shy. If you're too shy to talk to anybody new, don't even go. So, with this said, work on your shyness, and be professionally spontaneous. If you don't know what to say, ask questions! People love talking about what they do, what they like, what they want!</li><li>DON'T eat or drink too much. You're not there for the food and drinks.</li><li>If you do drink, don't hold it in your right hand. Who wants to shake a cold, wet hand anyway?</li><li>Same thing with food: Don't pick your finger food, then quickly eat it, wipe your hand off on your suit jacket and extend your hand for a handshake trying to let out a "Nice to meet you!" while still chewing...Uff!</li><li>Collect business cards and make a mental picture of ALL of them connected to each person. You will need them later!</li><li>Hand out business cards as well, and while doing so, add information about your business, location, new product/service...something that will create a mental connection of you, your business and the business card to the person you're giving the card to.</li><li>Don't stay in one spot. Work the room. Walk around, and look for people who are doing the same thing. Don't jump into a rather closed circle of people already in the middle of a conversation. Create your own circle and bring in people whom you've just met! Introduce them, properly, which will also help you retain their name and business info!</li></ul><br /><span style="color:#33ffff;">AFTER</span><br /><ul><li>Less than 48h after the event, send out any information you had promised people you would provide them with (an article on wardrobe faux-pas? A great appetizer recipe? Your event list for the Fall?)</li><li>In the same time frame, contact, via e-mail or blog postings (if applicable) how much you enjoyed meeting them and chatting about "abc" with them. Offer your services, your help and hope for future contact. Keep it simple and professional.</li><li>Don't be alarmed if the person NEVER answers back. I know, that's just not only rude, but a pitty. It shows how THEY don't take their networking seriously. Don't cry over it. Move on to those who care.</li><li>Look for additional networking events organized by the same group and different one, and mark them down in your calendar, making plans to attend. Don't attend an event if it conflicts with your own work/presentation/travel plans. Remember, you still have to work, or maybe even, your own business to run.</li><li>Keep a networking event BOOK or LOG! Yes! Write down the date, event name, time, people you've met, follow-ups, relationships built. Keep growing it!</li></ul><br /><span style="color:#ffff66;">Good luck!</span><br /><span style="color:#33ff33;">I look forward to reading about your Networking Tips!</span>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-48137350531506180042009-05-29T12:25:00.004-04:002009-05-29T12:53:48.752-04:00Ok, but don't forget to recognize what's GOOD as well!So far, according to the <span style="color:#ffff00;">poll</span>, it seems most people voice their bad service experience directly to management, and/or write a nasty letter (can I assume it would be a nasty letter?) to the owners or corporate office.<br /><br />Most of us are not looking for monetary compensation, like getting our money back or receiving a free meal on the next visit, but so many times we get something out of it anyways without even asking for it. Our intent, often, is <span style="color:#ff9900;">just for someone to listen to what we have to say</span> and rectify the situation, hopefully not letting it happen again!<br /><br />My husband and I received full compensation for our whole, entire meal (from Appetizer to Dessert and coffee) many, many years ago at McCormick & Schmick's. We received a free sushi roll from our neighborhood Chinese/Japanese Restaurant while ordering for home delivery after our last home delivery had arrived with fewer items than what we had ordered. We also received a "15% off on every visit" from a Barbecue Restaurant, however, have ever since experienced continuous unsatisfactory service that we now simply don't go there anymore that often (even though we have the discount card!).<br /><br />Now, you might think "these guys eat out a lot, my goodness!" or "they must be heavy complainers!". A little bit of both is true. But <span style="color:#33ccff;">our focus is actually on something else:</span><br /><br />My husband and I always, and I repeat, <span style="color:#ff9900;">always point out good service to our server and to management.</span> We make it a point to express how excellent service was <span style="color:#33ff33;">and why</span> it was so good. Both of us, having worked in the hospitality industry, know how important it is for employees and management to recognize top service and success. <span style="color:#ffff00;">We believe in how powerful this is. </span><br /><span style="color:#ffff00;"></span><br />We believe that while complaining about what's wrong will (hopefully) trigger some changes for the best, pointing out what's RIGHT has an <span style="color:#ff9900;">amazing impact on employee morale and on how WE feel.</span> Our contribution of verbally expressing our gratitude for good service goes a long way.<br /><br />How about shifting our thoughts now to observing and recognizing good service? Maybe we can also turn the nasty letters into amazing compliment letters. <span style="color:#33ffff;">To receive a verbal or written compliment from a guest/client, is one of the strongest motivators one can experience at work, positively affecting one's attitude towards people and one's job. </span><br /><br />I will write more and more about service, service etiquette and handling service issues, however, this post was intended to remind us all that it IS important to recognize good service. It IS important to let servers and managers know how great service was. Believe wen I say that it DOES make a difference!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-52434389021008829802009-05-26T11:12:00.007-04:002009-05-26T12:17:20.230-04:00NO random Restaurant Talk!..One of my areas of concentration lies in <span style="color:#ffff00;">customer service training</span>. This comprises less of the technical training to do a job as a server, bartender, as a front-desk agent, PBX (phones) agent, concierge, sales person or as a reservations agent, and more of the <span style="color:#ff9900;">people skills</span>, <span style="color:#ff9900;">communication skills</span>, <span style="color:#ff9900;">polished good manners</span> and <span style="color:#ff9900;">follow-up skills. </span>These "soft skills" complement the technical training given by supervisors, managers or corporate trainers. <span style="color:#33ffff;">I come in to polish it up a bit.</span><br /><br />Given the nature of one of my concentrations, I always find myself meticulously observing, silent-commenting and judging service. I mostly do so at hotels and restaurants, because of my previous work experience and industry knowledge and passion for hospitality.<br /><br />I stopped expecting excellent service (so sad, I know), because that would put me on the streets as a trainer and consultant. No, honestly, I haven't experienced flawless service in a <em>casual</em> dining establishment in a long, long time.<br /><br />I expect A+ service in fine dining establishments, no questions asked. A few years ago, my husband and I celebrated our Anniversary at <a href="http://www.manuelsonthe28th.com/menu.htm"><span style="color:#ff6666;">Manuel's on the 28th</span></a> on Downtown's Orange Avenue. The contemporary cuisine was absolutely, flawlessly served by our very knowledgeable, very well trained server. The <span style="color:#33ffff;">whole team was in sync with their guests</span>, amazingly anticipating our needs over and over again, only stopping by our table when necessary, knowing how to pause, not interrupting our table conversation. Well, a few years later, I must say I just remembered, my husband and I dined at <a href="http://www.antoniosonline.com/AntoniosSandLake.asp"><span style="color:#ff6666;">Antonio's</span></a> on Sand Lake Road by Dr. Philip's (also Orlando). Service was a delight. Although I would not consider it a fine dining establishment, white linen cloths, serving from the left, waiting until <em>both of us were done to clear</em> our plates from the right, and using a bread crumber before serving our dessert was mirroring the service we received this past Valentine's Day at <a href="http://www.ritzcarlton.com/en/Properties/Orlando/Dining/TheVineyardGrill/Default.htm"><span style="color:#ff6666;">The Vineyard Grill</span> </a>at the Ritz Carlton Grande Lakes.<br /><br />Sadly, as I was saying, I don't recall the last time I received excellent service in a casual dining establishment. There is always something to mess it up, I must say.<br />The other day, my parents and I were about to order lunch in one of Downtown's newest restaurants (very nice place, discriminating decor, interesting, tasty menu items). When asked how the chicken was, the waiter's facial expression (and I am not joking!), was a mix of skepticism with a slight disgust. To finalize his answer he said: "<em>It takes so long to cook, and then when you get it...you're just better off having much better chicken at KFC or so!".</em> Enough said.<br />At a nice Steakhouse known for having some of the best steaks in the State, while clearing up the dishes from the table, piling them up as much as possible on one of those oval trays, my stepdaughter was nicely splashed with meat sauce. It didn't burn her, but soiled her shirt and pants. <span style="color:#ffff66;">A not empathetic "sorry" was delivered so low you could hardly hear it</span>. One might say it was just an accident. perhaps. But accidents can be prevented, and the way he was clearing up the table was not indicative of any preventive measures.<br />One of my all-time <em>favorites</em> is a very friendly, yet clueless waitress letting us know that <em>"the bread we have now is so hard, that I'll have to put some fresh dough in the oven for you!"</em> Thank you for sharing. We don't want to, <span style="color:#33ffff;">we don't need to know</span> about these situations in the back of the house.<br /><br />A guy I worked with a few years ago, when answering a very upset guest's question why the elevator was still out of order, sarcastically responded "<em>Sir, we also have stairs!"...</em>The guest was staying on the 17th floor...(now, that was at a hotel, not at a restaurant, but you know what I'm talking about. Service is service)<br /><br />In my opinion, service has become way too casual. <span style="color:#ff99ff;">The fine, little respectful attitudes are somehow lost in time.</span> We are so often rushed through lunch/dinner, many waiters making a complete wrong assumption that we're in a hurry just because it's lunch time. We are judged by our waitstaff the minute we sit down, I get that, ok, and sometimes you see the pathetic transition of horrible service to nicer and careful service once you tell them you are taking a NY Strip home to your husband and 2 desserts will be to-go as well. Now, I must say, diners (people!) have also been slacking in their manners. Uff, that will be a whole other post, but if you're trying to serve someone who's constantly on the cellphone, loud and obnoxious, disturbing other guests and barely paying attention to you, server, I understand that frustration very well also.<br /><br />There are two sides to everything, right?<br />(The restaurants mentioned above are linked to their web sites!)Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-45910523736609306282009-04-25T12:12:00.008-04:002009-04-25T13:20:29.672-04:00InternEtiquette - Part IIGood day, everybody! It's a beautiful Saturday morning here in Orlando, Florida!<br /><br />Continuing the mission of spreading <span style="color:#ff6666;">good manners and kindness in our online world</span>, today's focus is on:<br /><ul><li>Enhancing your online written communication to avoid possible conflict</li><li>Watching the content you post; mind your readers!</li></ul><p>To start, let's have a look at an example: I am writing to you, whether it is via e-mail, instant messenger, blog comments section, Facebook, Orkut or any other social medium: "<em>I think you did the right thing</em>" You probably know what I am making reference to when I write this to you, however, you don't really know <strong>how</strong> I am <strong>telling</strong> you this. Am I confident in my words? Am I rather skeptic? Maybe I am happy? Notice that I didn't use punctuation in the sentence on purpose. You don't know how many e-mails I receive with no punctuation. It's almost like a written nightmare. Without punctuation, you run the risk of total misinterpretation. Let's not get into grammar coaching here, but I cannot emphasize enough how important commas, exclamation and question marks or periods are. I was perplexed when a high school counselor e-mailed me an email with no greeting and closing note, and no use of punctuation! Uff! Enhancing your words with adjectives, adverbs punctuation and "<span style="color:#ffff00;">visual words</span>" helps your reader understand <span style="color:#33ccff;">how</span> you are expressing yourself in your written delivery. It helps your reader <span style="color:#ff9900;">"listen to your voice" when he/she reads your mail.</span></p><p>"<em>I honestly think you did the right thing, without a doubt in my mind!" </em>conveys the full idea: <span style="color:#33ff33;">What </span>you want to say and <span style="color:#33ff33;">how</span> you want to say it. </p><p>Instead of replying to an e-mail by writing: "That's a good start. Keep it up.", write: "<em>I think the first ideas you showed in your table are a wonderful way to start the project. It gives it dimension. Keep up the good work you demonstrated in that table and the bullet points below. Let's bring more content to it, though</em>." <span style="color:#00cccc;">People can't read what your entire thoughts are</span>, and while assuming is something we just have to do on a daily basis anyway, if you are expecting a 2-way communication to be truly effective, <span style="color:#00cccc;">make sure you enhance your written e-mail communication</span>.</p><p>Time should never be an issue here. It takes <span style="color:#ffff33;">just a few more seconds</span> to add words, explanations, "smiley faces" and question marks. In addition, by taking 1 additional minute to write it out, you'll be saving time later on not having to explain what you meant in the first place. </p><p>Once I wrote an e-mail to a training manager. It had about 2 small paragraphs with a few questions and thoughts I had. The answer I received was (and I will never forget my reaction to it): "<em>Call me as soon as you can.</em>" <span style="color:#33ccff;">Was he upset? Was he in a huge hurry? Was he at least somewhat happy about what I had sent him?</span> I was confused by the too short and almost rude answer. I didn't know what to make of it. On the phone, soon after, our conversation was delightful! Had he sent an enhanced e-mail, he would have been able to communicate with me much more efficiently and avoid any misinterpretation!</p><p><strong>Second topic:</strong> <span style="color:#ff9900;">Watch the content you post!</span> I read a comment someone posted about certain presentations being "so lame". Not only did this person insult all the other classmates who share the same social medium online and who were actually presenting on that day, but the content posted created a "did you see what So&So wrote?!" type of online gossip. Now, <em>that</em> is something we all <em>don't </em>have time for. A friend of mine decided to blog about her "dumb colleagues who think they know it all" and wrote a paragraph about one certain lady. The lady ended up reading it, and my friend's reputation was drastically affected. Negatively, needless to say. She had to apologize by blogging about it. Another one commented on a certain holiday being "so fake and consumption driven" and "a waste and ridiculous", not taking into consideration that others in his own tight circle celebrate it all the way, and love it. What are you trying to do to yourself, I ask? I never advocate against critique, however, <span style="color:#ffff00;">it can always be done in a kinder way</span>. There is no doubt about that. </p><p>Remember, nothing is <span style="color:#33ff33;">ever totally <em>deleted</em></span> in our world wide web.</p>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-26531033694296784702009-04-21T10:55:00.006-04:002009-04-21T12:05:39.103-04:00InternEtiquette - Part IA few topics deserve more posts. Like the "Iffy Situations" series that I started, I will dedicate a few posts to, ...let's call it <strong>InternEtiquette!</strong><br /><br />This is a topic hard to tackle due to its complexity. It involves so many aspects, applications, "places", things, words, information, web sites, logos, e-mails, social media, pictures, viruses, privacy, copyright issues,...Uff! But please, note, I am not a lawyer...I will <span style="color:#00cccc;">focus on the politeness that is so often forgotten in the online world.</span> My suggestions and advice come entirely from my experience in the Etiquette Business.<br /><br />My first on the list: <strong>E-MAILS!</strong><br /><br /><strong>What I have been noticing:</strong><br /><br /><ul><li>People who <span style="color:#ffcc66;">don't greet others</span> when e-mailing: By leaving out a "<em>Hello, John! How are you today?</em>" you send the message that the content is more important than your manners and respect for others. How do you speak to others on the phone? You greet them first, correct?</li><li>People who <span style="color:#ff9900;">don't finish their e-mails with an appropriate closing</span> note: By not saying "<em>Goodbye</em>!", "<em>Have a nice day, and I'll talk to you later!"</em> or "<em>Thank you for your e-mail</em>" you are definitely not considering good manners and god communication. <strong>It is like hanging up on somebody via e-mail!</strong></li><li>People <span style="color:#ffff00;">who misspell</span> (and not by accident) and <span style="color:#ffff33;">use wrong grammar</span>: No excuses here. I only tolerate it when people are using English as their second or third language. If English is your first language, you should never, and I repeat, never, use wrong grammar and spell words incorrectly. It shows lack of care, lack of attention and lack of respect for yourself and others.</li><li>People <span style="color:#ffcc00;">forwarding your e-mails and e-mail addresses to others</span> without your "permission": Here is a tricky one. I would never wrongly judge my mother for forwarding my e-mails with pictures of my daughter and us to her cousins and best friends! I know she does it out of love. Being far away, e-mail has become one of our main modes of communication. I appreciate my mom and friends caring!However, apparently my personal e-mail address was given out to a lady constantly sending out messages about events that, unfortunately, don't interest me. I don't know her well, but know a few people who know her. You get the idea.</li><li>People <span style="color:#ffcc66;">not answering</span> your e-mails: Once I wrote about the time management excuse of "I don't have time". Thus, if you don't answer e-mails promptly (urgent ones on the same day and non-urgent ones within 48h, Internet access being available, of course), you are sending out the message that you don't have time for that person's issues, comments, questions etc. You are mostly, however, sending out the message that you have time (of course, we all have time!), but you choose to do with it something else than answering your friend, client, family member. If you have an e-mail account, expect people to e-mail you. Check it daily. Make it a habit! It has become one of the most common and convenient communication modes. <span style="color:#33ffff;">If you have one, use it, or people will lose interest in e-mailing you!</span></li></ul><p align="center"><span style="color:#ff9900;">These are some of the basic faux-pas of e-mailing that I consider mentioning. I have not gone into content yet. Next time, let's talk about e-mail content and social media! It is amazing, how social media has become part of our lives as people and business people. For now, have a good one, everybody, and I look forward to your comments and questions! </span></p>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-71982930743530865492009-04-06T16:47:00.004-04:002009-04-06T17:11:36.325-04:00Definitely talk the talk, walk the walk, do as you preach!Unfortunately, I must say, it has happened quite often that I personally sent an e-mail to someone in the business world, <span style="color:#33ffff;">without ever receiving an answer back.</span> Many of them have been compliments and questions, and none of them have been about pitching services. Ever. The most ironic thing is that the majority of my e-mail recipients have clearly stated "<em>E-mail me anytime! I'm here to answer your questions! Or call me!".</em> None of them were celebrities.<br /><br />Maybe I should have called, because e-mail didn't work.<br />Some of the people I am referring to are in a business similar to mine. You would think that at least these people apparently practicing good manners would understand the value of contacting someone back when they receive mail.<br /><br />Hm.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ffcc00;">Sometimes we can't contact someone back as soon as we wished, but to let weeks and even months go by is just a shame.</span> <span style="color:#ff6600;">Professionals should know better. </span><span style="color:#33ff33;">There is a sense of urgency that is lost, but that can be recovered. </span><br /><br />How can you ensure you don't end up in a person's short-term memory, "leave it for later" folder, mails, calls and ultimately "forgot who you were" junk box?<br /><br /><ul><li><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Persistence</span></li><li><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Social grace</span></li><li><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Content quality</span></li><li><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Added value</span></li><li><span style="color:#ffcc33;">Understanding</span></li></ul><span style="color:#00cccc;">Follow up</span> with an e-mail or call if you don't hear from the person after 48h. If you still don't hear anything and you really need to reach the person, you may want to try calling instead of e-mailing. Don't give up, but never push.<br />Always be <span style="color:#ffcc66;">friendly, polite, smile</span> when you speak and write, and mind your word choice.<br />Be straight to the point. If the person is known to be busy, be short and <span style="color:#33ff33;">efficient </span>in your communication style. Remember, people like to be associated to those they feel they have something in common with. Your content has to be <span style="color:#33ff33;">appealing </span>and self-explanatory as to why you are contacting them.<br />Offer <span style="color:#33ccff;">value</span> to them. I will talk about VALUE in my next post. (think about what it means to you in the meantime).<br />Understand <span style="color:#ffff00;">circumstances change</span> daily, hourly. Understand how you are approaching them, and re-evaluate it. Understand some people, unfortunately, are not good communicators.Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-66242819530136486902009-04-01T16:18:00.003-04:002009-04-01T16:57:57.223-04:00Boastful communicationI had the pleasure of meeting a very nice lady today who, after learning about my work, asked me in a whisper: <em>"How do I deal with these Moms who think their baby is the smartest, the cutest, the best, the fastest and just perfect, and verbalize it to the whole world?!"</em><br /><em></em><br /><span style="color:#ffcc66;">That is a very valid question. </span>I believe it is common for a loving mother to believe her child is amazing. I know it, because I have a young daughter, and I am completely in love with her.<br /><br />I told my new friend that the <span style="color:#33ffff;">most polite thing to do is to share the enthusiasm</span> of that mother. You can use phrases such as <em>"This is wonderful!"</em> or <em>"It is great she is developing so fast!",</em> but don't feel obliged to hang around for another 10 minutes for more of "My child is the best" type conversation.<br />You may excuse yourself politley and change rooms, find another friend to chat with or leave, if it applies.<br /><br />Personally, I think <span style="color:#ffcc66;">sharing important milestones</span> being reached, such as walking, talking, reading, writing, sleeping over at a friend's house, helping around the house, <span style="color:#ffcc66;">is a great thing to do. </span><br /><br /><strong>Bragging about it is not.</strong> Bragging usually comes accompanied by arrogance and exaggeration. Implied comparisons and boastful comments contribute to a very uncomfortable and even hostile interaction, whether in person, over the phone or even online. This goes far beyond mothers bragging about their children to others.<br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#33ff33;">This applies to many, many situations we face everyday in our social and in our business lives. </span></div><span style="color:#33ff33;"></span><br />The problem with bragging is that it immeditaley has a <span style="color:#66ffff;">negative conotation</span>. Even worse, it can be done in a non-verbal matter as well. While bragging is created through a carefully throught through verbal delivery (words, tone of voice, exclamations), our body posture, facial expressions, looks, arm gestures have a great impact.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff9900;">Bragging is not healthy and sets us up for disappointment and failure.</span> It secludes us socially and might even create labels around our persona, such as, as mentioned before, arrogant, high maintenance and difficult to be around.<br /><br /><span style="color:#ff6666;"><strong>There are tacful ways to let others know about your accomplishments or your child's accomplishments:</strong></span><br /><ul><li>Start by expressing how greatful and happy your are: <em>"I'm so happy today!"</em></li><li>Have a smile on your face and look the person in the eye (if talking in person)</li><li>Continue with <em>"something happened that really made my day yesterday!..."</em></li><li>This will trigger interest by the other person</li><li>Tell your story and keep it very short and simple <em>"Susie was given a little award for demosntrating great behavior in school! I was truly touched!"</em></li><li>You are not saying words/phrases such as "best", "perfect", "I knew it", "She is the best in there anyways", "My little girl is so perfect" or "She's just above average in all she does" - <strong>You don't need to comment</strong> on the story. Tell the story and that's it. Let the other person share with comments and questions. </li></ul>If you are on the other end of the conversation and are trying to "control" it a bit (you want to avoid hearing bragging comments), keep it short and simple too. Tell them "That's wonderful!" and when the opportunity arises, change topics.<br /><br /><div align="center">...By the way, let me change topics and comment about the coffee poll below. Starbucks won! Is that surprising to you?</div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-76414353769441172752009-03-22T13:03:00.002-04:002009-03-22T13:21:25.206-04:00Manage your Magazines!I love magazines. I truly believe magazine subscriptions are great, because, knowing I will buy them anyway, I actually save money when subscribing! This thought pattern has led me to create a magazine "library" at home, where you can find some great publications, such as Fortune, Conde Nast Portfolio, Business Week, Working Mother, InStyle, Money, Parenting, Golf, American Baby, Tea Time, Southern Lady, Health, BEe and my beloved Pink.<br /><br />You are probably wondering how in the world I would have time to read all of these magazines. I understand what you mean, as I often wonder about the same thing.<br /><br />I decided to create a <em>"scan and file" process</em>, where I tear out my favorite articles and file them in a folder. The folder has different tabs and organizes my articles into different categories.<br />I use the articles in the folders as references, as a past-time, I give it to friends and family, sharing as much as I can.<br /><br />Now, I have 4 heavy piles of magazines already scanned and filed, waiting to be placed into the recylcing box. I would probably need 4 boxes, at least.<br /><br />I enjoy reading quality magazines so much because of different reasons:<br /><ul><li>They relax me <span style="font-size:85%;">(easy reading)</span></li><li>I can carry them around with me</li><li>Many times, they add value to my life</li><li>Many times, they inspire my work</li><li>I truly enjoy reading about successful people and companies</li></ul><p>...and accompanied by a cup of coffee, even better! Talking about coffee, have you read the post below on Dunkin' & Starbucks? </p>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-73778653877813243332009-03-18T17:42:00.003-04:002009-03-18T18:32:01.311-04:00"Hear it and live it" in order to judge it!My husband, always having others' needs and likes in mind, was kind enough to record a short news piece on Nightline for me. The feature was on Dunkin' Donuts boom versus Starbucks' "stagnation", so to say.<br /><br />I've always admired Starbucks' as a company. I particularly like the fact that, while being in the coffee business, they are actually selling something quite less tangible: the "have coffee in a living-room experience", which happens to be accompanied by lattes and frapuccinos. I first entered a Starbucks in 1999, and immediately was sold on the concept and the coffee. Years went by and I still remember how a friend of mine and I developed a market analysis to take Starbucks abroad to Montevideo, Uruguay. The project was for college, and we excelled in it. It was a fun project. I was thrilled when my sister proudly announced "Starbucks arrived in Brazil!!!" (last year!), and during my time at the Marriott, there was hardly a day on which I did not get something from our Starbucks lobby cafe. (sigh!...)<br /><br />It took me by surprise that Dunkin' Donuts opened 800 stores last year and is expecting growth of 5% this year. Starbucks does not seem to be experiencing the same boom. In fact, many stores are closing and baristas are losing their jobs. Given the current economic and financial situation, this taught me a good lesson in customer loyalty and effective marketing. You see, I took the time to visit a Dunkin' Donuts store today, and was pleasently surprised by the variety of drinks, food (including healthy options!), good customer service and employee knowledge. It was great to see an "anytime breakfast" menu and impressive to learn the store is open 24/7! I sat there for a moment and analyzed the environment: the dining room does not compare to Starbucks. The ambience is totally different. The product is different. I briefly thought that Nighltine was a bit off when comparing Starbucks and Dunkin' Donuts, simply focusing on the fact that both serve coffee products. But that's the only thing they have in common.<br /><br />The product they are marketing is different. It is two different things, like apples and oranges. Both are good. But not comparable, really. I believe it's actually not fair to compare both. I am happy to have taken the time to watch it on TiVo, and to have gone to Dunkin' Donuts today. I will be back. I was pleased with everything. I will not leave Starbucks behind, though. I go to Starbucks to experience the atmosphere, the "we share something unique" type of community feeling when you spend some time in there, and the coffee drinks.<br /><br />The fact that Dunkin' Donuts is experiencing success is because they are marketing correctly. Starbucks' "we sell you an experience" might not be enough in these times, and its momentum has been lost a little. Dunkin' has competitive prices, fast service, appealing marketing campaigns and strong celebrity endorsements. It has created a menu that satifies our hunger and that works well for various age groups, tastes and needs. Loyal tenants don't give it up for anything, and newcomers like what they see. It is accessible, efficient and basic.<br /><br />Simply put, it efficiently fits the time and circumstance we are living in today.<br /><br />This was my "<em>hear it and live it experience</em>" of the day. I'm looking forward to reading/hearing your comments!Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-50327435011599947952009-03-11T11:46:00.001-04:002009-03-11T11:48:17.087-04:00My newest project, coming soon!<div align="center"><span style="font-size:180%;">Be Kind.</span></div><div align="center"><span style="font-size:180%;">Feel Good.</span></div><span style="font-size:180%;"></span><br /><span style="font-size:180%;"></span><br /><div align="right"><span style="font-size:85%;">(c) 2009 International Etiquette Solutions, Inc.</span></div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9051661296719728323.post-63652295171540850942009-03-10T11:58:00.004-04:002009-03-10T12:44:13.683-04:00Gift giving "corporate style"Gift giving is an art. The main goal behing the act of giving someone a gift is to make the other person feel special. It takes a few steps to achieve this goal and affect the other person on an emotional level. Visually, we are naturally attracted to beautiful things (<span style="font-size:85%;">hint: nice gift wrap</span>). Emotionally, we enjoy personalized things (<span style="font-size:85%;">hint: a handwritten card, a frame with a real picture of both of you</span>). Practically, we like things that will add value to our lives (<span style="font-size:85%;">hint: something we can <em>use</em>!</span>).<br /><br />You can imagine how I was silently in shock when I once received a gift from a person about a year later after I had given <em>that</em> person <em>that</em> exact gift. Basically, she gave me back my gift!<br /><br />If you take time to choose a gift, it will show. Also, know at least a few things about the person's likes and dislikes. When handing a gift to someone, <em>never</em>, and I repeat, <em><span style="color:#ffff00;">never comment</span></em> in a way that will make the other person <em>uncomfortable.</em> This includes saying "<em>Do you like it? Oh, I don't think you like it... You can exchange it! ....Yeah, I don't think she liked it..".</em> This is one of the worst things someone can do when giving a gift.<br /><br />In the corporate world, gift giving is common, yet sometimes misunderstood. Remember to <span style="color:#ff9900;">keep it professional.</span> You may want to buy something that can be actually used in the office/business environment. Depending on what the person does or where she/he works, you may also want to keep it more conservative, or less.<br /><br />Whether you have a large or small budget, <span style="color:#33ffff;">creativity is key</span>.<br /><span style="color:#ffcc00;">I have a few personal favorites, for $ and $$$ that I would like to share with you:</span><br /><br /><ul><li><strong><em>For the Sweet Tooth:</em></strong> delicious Champagne Truffels from Teuscher (Switzerland)</li><li><strong><em>For the tea Lover:</em></strong> the blooming teapot, tea for one and blooming green tea from TupperLiving (Tupperware)</li><li><strong><em>For the coffee Lover:</em></strong> a magnificent Nespresso machine</li><li><strong><em>To complement someone's Stationary:</em></strong> Fine greeting cards with the person's initial(s) - don't forget the envelopes!</li><li><strong><em>To add a bit more elegance to someone's Stationary:</em></strong> a classic Lamy fountain pen</li><li><strong><em>For news and magazine Lovers:</em></strong> a subscription to a nice magazine ("Pink", for business ladies, "Portfolio", for both business men and women)</li><li><strong><em>For the Mom who is also your Coworker:</em></strong> a subscription to "Working Mother" magazine (great!)</li><li><strong><em>Car TLC:</em></strong> In addition to a gas card (minimum US$25,-), arrange for the person's car to be cleaned inside and out, and if you want to impress even more, arrange for it to be detailed!</li><li><strong><em>To add a bit of Fun and Laughter:</em></strong> The Hallmark "<em>Hoops&Yoyo</em>" collection has a great variety of fun (and funny!) gifts (<span style="font-size:85%;">to be given to someone you know a bit more</span>)</li><li><strong><em>To add Motivation:</em></strong> there are great motivational and inspirational cards, posters, frames, even coffee mugs and agendas/calendars. Check out AllPosters.com!</li></ul><strong><span style="color:#66ffff;">Gifts to avoid:</span></strong><br />- Perfume or cologne<br />- Pets of any kind<br />- Clothes, especially undergarments<br />- Shoes<br />- Jewelry<br />- BIG things, like a funny 2 gallon coffee mug (?..), a 1yard long pencil or a 20 pounds chocolate bar<br /><br />To succeed in the art of gift giving, <span style="color:#33ff33;">take your time</span>, find out a <span style="color:#33ff33;">bit more about the person</span>, be <span style="color:#33ff33;">creative</span>, make it <span style="color:#33ff33;">pretty, personalize</span> it and <span style="color:#33ff33;">be sincere</span>, always!<br /><br /><div align="center"><strong>Kindness is a wonderful thing. Use it wisely!</strong></div>Denise E.Z.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11238198708899814176noreply@blogger.com2